Love language

We are not directly taught to love,we figure it out on our own,we use what was shown to us as example.Sometimes we even want more but that will depend entirely on the circumstances of who we hang around.I realized recently that love languages are a delicate subject.Most people will express their love the way they would want to be loved. More often than not this will end in premium tears.This is why ,you know how much effort it takes to love someone a certain way because you do it hoping they will give back.Which they don't because it's not their way of expressing love.So you give,give and give some more.Then because they don't give back you start to hurt.In your mind you are asking yourself why they don't appreciate your effort.While to them they're are doing what they think works.The lack of communication is the leading cause of breakups and heart breaks.If only we could do talk to each other, communicate our needs there would not be so much left unsaid.